The client in front of me hasn’t made a series of bad decisions. IN FACT, they actually made a series of entirely sensible ones. Studied something strong, joined the right firm, progressed on the expected track. Somewhere in that sequence, they arrived somewhere they didn’t consciously choose. I call this Directional Drift. It’s distinct from […]

I have had a therapist, a coach, and a mentor at different points in my life. Sometimes more than one simultaneously. Here’s how I think about the difference. Therapy and coaching both help an individual discover more about themselves. The difference is orientation. Therapy is more past-focused: understanding the patterns and experiences you’re carrying, and […]

Most women I’ve spoken to about motherhood describe some version of losing themselves in it, gradually, without a clear moment they could point to. The roles accumulated, the demands expanded, and somewhere in there, the person they were before became harder to “see”. Sue is a different kind of story. The transition wasn’t easy – […]

Most of us only do a partial audit of our lives. We check the areas we feel good about. We avoid the ones that feel stuck. Slowly, the gap between where we are and where we actually want to be grows. That’s the Invisible Drift – the kind that only becomes visible when you stop […]

As I was strength training, I learned about the concept of progressive overload and realised how it applies to life more generally. In the gym, when you’re at the rack choosing your weights, you can reach for something comfortable or for a heavier weight you haven’t tried before. Once you understand the concept, you know […]

I use AI for reflection. At the end of a long day, when I have a thought I haven’t fully processed yet, I’ll often open a conversation and start typing. It helps me externalise and organise my messy thoughts into something more coherent. For that first layer of thinking, the messy, unformed kind, it works […]

My mum and grandma both grew up poor. Neither finished school as they had to start working as early as possible to make ends meet. I grew up not worrying about either of those things, because they made sure of it. For a long time I also held a quiet list of grievances alongside all […]