I have had a therapist, a coach, and a mentor at different points in my life. Sometimes more than one simultaneously.
Here’s how I think about the difference.
Therapy and coaching both help an individual discover more about themselves. The difference is orientation.
Therapy is more past-focused: understanding the patterns and experiences you’re carrying, and why.
Coaching is more future-focused: understanding where you are now, where you want to go, and how to bridge that gap.
Mentoring exists on a different plane. It’s more about the mentor: their journey, their experiences, their advice, shaped by their own values and past choices.
In a nutshell:
- Therapy tells you where the patterns came from.
- Coaching asks what you’re going to do about them.
- Mentoring shows you one version of what a path forward can look like, filtered through someone whose judgment you trust.
In my own work, I draw on all 3 depending on what a session calls for.
The past matters in coaching, even if it’s not the primary focus.
Understanding how a client became who they are, the beliefs they formed early, the environments that shaped their defaults, gives me the context I need to understand why they’re stuck.
Often the thing blocking someone from where they want to go is a pattern that made complete sense somewhere earlier in their life.
You can’t work with that if you’re only looking forward.
I have also found that clients find it very helpful when I share my own perspectives and tools that I use in my own journey vs purely making it just about them. (Which is where the mentoring/self-help angle comes in)
Whatever I bring into the room, it’s all in service of one thing: building a clear picture of where you are now, where you want to get to, and what’s actually in the way.
*Neverdrift is primarily a coaching practice. However, we draw on therapeutic and knowledge-based approaches to help you see your drift clearly and move intentionally but we’re not a replacement for ongoing therapy or mentorship if those are part of your support system.
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