I use AI for reflection. At the end of a long day, when I have a thought I haven’t fully processed yet, I’ll often open a conversation and start typing. It helps me externalise and organise my messy thoughts into something more coherent. For that first layer of thinking, the messy, unformed kind, it works […]

My mum and grandma both grew up poor. Neither finished school as they had to start working as early as possible to make ends meet. I grew up not worrying about either of those things, because they made sure of it. For a long time I also held a quiet list of grievances alongside all […]

There are two moments when people finally stop ignoring what’s been building and start exploring coaching. One is when everything changes. The other is when nothing on the surface seems to change. The first is what I call a threshold moment. Something happened – a job change, a redundancy, a relationship ending, a baby arriving. […]

Someone asked me recently what makes for a meaningful life in the recent IG Q&A. I think most people, including myself, believe that meaning is something we need to find.  The book I recommended in response was How to Live a Meaningful Life by Bill Burnett and Dave Evans – the Stanford duo behind the […]

The first time I noticed my eczema flaring, I didn’t connect it to stress. I connected it to skincare, to weather, to everything except what was actually happening. I changed my moisturiser, drank more water, googled “eczema triggers” and went down a rabbit hole about humidity and diet. It genuinely did not occur to me […]

That’s the thing nobody tells you about drift – it doesn’t feel like losing your way. It feels like a very full, very productive, completely reasonable life. 1. How It Started During my consulting and Google years, I had all the markers of someone who had figured it out. The career was moving. The work […]

When rest feels like falling behind. When a slower season feels like losing yourself. When a role change, a new chapter, a baby (yes, even the good things) can feel disorienting. What these things have in common is that they don’t come with a scoreboard that can tangibly be measured. And when your identity is […]

Overeating. Doomscrolling. Overworking until you disappear into the doing. Shutting down when it all becomes too much. Saying yes when every part of you means no. We call these bad habits or character flaws but I think there’s a more nuanced way to look at them: they’re survival strategies.  Adaptations a nervous system made under […]

These two books changed how I think about behavior change. Not just what to do, but how I think, and who I’m becoming which to me is the core concept of self-leadership. Most people try to fix their lives from the surface. But if your thinking stays the same, your patterns don’t. If you’re not […]