We have all met someone (or perhaps we are someone) who seems to have it entirely together. From the outside, they radiate assurance. They speak with conviction, navigate social rooms with ease, and command respect in their professional lives. Yet behind closed doors, a single piece of negative feedback or a minor setback can cause […]

Most people approach their career by executing first – sending out more applications, to get more interviews. I call that a bottoms-up approach and it’s understandable. It feels productive as there’s more motion. But real clarity rarely comes from activity alone. Motion does not mean progress. Before deciding what to pursue, I think it’s worth […]

Most of us only do a partial audit of our lives. We check the areas we feel good about. We avoid the ones that feel stuck. Slowly, the gap between where we are and where we actually want to be grows. That’s the Invisible Drift – the kind that only becomes visible when you stop […]

As I was strength training, I learned about the concept of progressive overload and realised how it applies to life more generally. In the gym, when you’re at the rack choosing your weights, you can reach for something comfortable or for a heavier weight you haven’t tried before. Once you understand the concept, you know […]

I use AI for reflection. At the end of a long day, when I have a thought I haven’t fully processed yet, I’ll often open a conversation and start typing. It helps me externalise and organise my messy thoughts into something more coherent. For that first layer of thinking, the messy, unformed kind, it works […]

My mum and grandma both grew up poor. Neither finished school as they had to start working as early as possible to make ends meet. I grew up not worrying about either of those things, because they made sure of it. For a long time I also held a quiet list of grievances alongside all […]

There are two moments when people finally stop ignoring what’s been building and start exploring coaching. One is when everything changes. The other is when nothing on the surface seems to change. The first is what I call a threshold moment. Something happened – a job change, a redundancy, a relationship ending, a baby arriving. […]

Someone asked me recently what makes for a meaningful life in the recent IG Q&A. I think most people, including myself, believe that meaning is something we need to find.  The book I recommended in response was How to Live a Meaningful Life by Bill Burnett and Dave Evans – the Stanford duo behind the […]