Last month, we explored how becoming a mum changes you. (Read our Motherhood series here) This Father’s Day weekend, we wanted to do the same for dads, because this shift shows up for them too – just in its own way. There’s a version of fatherhood that doesn’t get talked about much. It’s not the sleepless nights or […]

Most of us only do a partial audit of our lives. We check the areas we feel good about. We avoid the ones that feel stuck. Slowly, the gap between where we are and where we actually want to be grows. That’s the Invisible Drift – the kind that only becomes visible when you stop […]

A continuation of: “I don’t want to mother you. I want a partner.” I’ve been working with a man (I’ll call him X) who came into coaching describing his marriage as the one place he couldn’t get things right. At work, he was a director – capable, respected, the person people brought hard problems to. […]

Huimin and I started coaching work together at a point when she was several years into motherhood, 2 children in and had more distance to look back at the early years clearly. That distance matters in the context of her story. She wasn’t in the middle of the newborn fog or navigating the rawness of […]

My mum and grandma both grew up poor. Neither finished school as they had to start working as early as possible to make ends meet. I grew up not worrying about either of those things, because they made sure of it. For a long time I also held a quiet list of grievances alongside all […]

Something I notice quite consistently in high-achieving women is that the over-responsibility doesn’t start as a relationship problem. It starts much earlier, and by the time it surfaces in the relationship, it’s already been running quietly for a long time. They become the one who tracks everything, who remembers, anticipates, and manages. The emotional load […]

Many of the people I work with arrive with some version of the same thing.  Life looks good from the outside – career on track, relationships seem fine but yet something feels quietly off in a way they can’t quite name or explain. Let me share one story that captures this particularly well. Sarah (name […]

Morning routines. Goal-setting frameworks. Accountability systems. These things matter. But I’ve come to believe that real self-leadership starts much earlier – in a place most high-drive people actively avoid: Pattern recognition. In yourself. Across every domain of your life simultaneously. Because here’s what I’ve learned – both through receiving coaching and coaching others: Your patterns […]