Most women I’ve spoken to about motherhood describe some version of losing themselves in it, gradually, without a clear moment they could point to. The roles accumulated, the demands expanded, and somewhere in there, the person they were before became harder to “see”. Sue is a different kind of story. The transition wasn’t easy – […]

Most of us only do a partial audit of our lives. We check the areas we feel good about. We avoid the ones that feel stuck. Slowly, the gap between where we are and where we actually want to be grows. That’s the Invisible Drift – the kind that only becomes visible when you stop […]

I first met Vanessa when I was working at Google. Before I left the company, I led a workshop at our corporate offsite in Bali and something shifted for her in that room. She came back to it later, when life had slowed down enough for her to actually do something with the realisation. Timing […]

There are two moments when people finally stop ignoring what’s been building and start exploring coaching. One is when everything changes. The other is when nothing on the surface seems to change. The first is what I call a threshold moment. Something happened – a job change, a redundancy, a relationship ending, a baby arriving. […]

Many of the people I work with arrive with some version of the same thing.  Life looks good from the outside – career on track, relationships seem fine but yet something feels quietly off in a way they can’t quite name or explain. Let me share one story that captures this particularly well. Sarah (name […]

That’s the thing nobody tells you about drift – it doesn’t feel like losing your way. It feels like a very full, very productive, completely reasonable life. 1. How It Started During my consulting and Google years, I had all the markers of someone who had figured it out. The career was moving. The work […]

There’s a moment in every coaching relationship where you see it – that a-ha moment when someone realizes they’ve been operating on outdated software for years.  1. The Pattern I Keep Seeing I’ve lost count of how many high achievers sit across from me with the same presenting issue: “I always feel stressed and anxious. […]

There’s a concept in strength training called progressive overload. The idea is simple: you don’t get stronger by lifting the same weight forever. You get stronger by gradually, consistently adding more – more resistance, more reps, more range. Your muscles adapt, and what once felt heavy starts to feel manageable, then normal, then easy. I […]